Baby Talk: Hey Guys, Here’s How To Pamper Your Exhausted, Pregnant Queens

Carrying a child inside the womb is both a joy and a struggle, filled with days that are both physically and emotionally exhausting.

As an expectant dad, you might be wondering how best to supply some tender loving care to your wife as she goes through her pregnancy. Here are some ways to make her feel special throughout this nine-month journey:

1. Offer a helping hand (without being asked first!) 

Show your wife that she can rely on somebody other than herself. Help out inside the house. It can be simple tasks such as doing the laundry, packing the baby's clothes, or keeping the bathroom clean. Go the extra mile by offering to carpool the other kids, prepare dinner, or clean the car.

There are many ways you can lend a hand, and your wife will appreciate even the smallest acts of service you offer. More importantly, don't wait until she asks you to help. Take the initiative to meet her needs and to keep your space in order! Because right now, all she wants (aside from her midnight cravings) is a good rest to keep her healthy and sane. And that rest includes help with the mental load of managing household affairs even with "pregnancy brain". 

2. Take her out on dates

Men, this is the perfect time to step up your game. Treat your pregnant wife to a romantic date. It doesn't have to be extravagant; it can be as simple as a movie night at home or a dinner for two with relaxing, scented candles around and her favourite music on the background. Set the mood and make her feel appreciated and beautiful. The mother of your child truly deserves it!

3. Plan a vacation - go for a babymoon

Whether it's your first child you're expecting or the fourth, you can always plan for a couple of getaways! Babymooning is the newest trend if you like to give both you and your wife an undisrupted timeout or a pre-baby vacation. Ideally, a doctor's approval is needed to make sure it is safe for your wife to cover a distance. Some hotels and resorts offer babymoon packages which include a specialised spa and a “cravings” menu for pregnant women. You may also opt to bring home souvenirs to symbolise the coming of a newborn baby to your home!

Again, since your wife's brain is probably exploding with all the plans for baby, take charge when planning for the babymoon. Research potential locations and prioritise the ones that she can comfortably enjoy even with food restrictions and while carrying the extra weight. Book plane tickets and spring for roomier seats if you can afford it. And finally, tap into your inner Instagram Husband and take tons of glam photos of her on the trip! 

4. Help your wife ease her aches and pains with a prenatal massage

A husband's touch is always the best, but it doesn't hurt to go to a specialised spa salon for prenatal and maternity massages. These services - which often include a belly mask and foot therapy - can ease your wife's tense muscles and sore spots, and relax her senses. Do a bit of research together, and you'll find the perfect combination of services for your wife, no matter what trimester she's currently in.

5. Be present (physically!) whenever she's feeling unwell

Physical discomfort is one of the hallmarks of pregnancy, and nothing makes an achy, nauseous, and swollen woman feel worse than seeing her husband spend his weekends playing football while she groans away on the couch (beneath a pile of laundry, no less - the laundry never ends when you're expecting a little one!). That's not to say that you need to be by her side 24/7 or that you're not allowed to ever play sports with the boys. Chances are, she'll appreciate having a bit of "me time" before giving birth as well! But just be mindful of the ways you can step up to make her pain a little more bearable.

Does the smell of meat make her want to hurl? Then eat your burger outside. 

Is she spending two hours a day commuting on the MRT? If you drive, offer to fetch her now and again - and if not, sponsor her cab fare! 

Leg cramps waking her up in the middle of the night? Don't pretend to be asleep. Offer a massage or a hug. Fish out her compression socks from the closet if she isn't wearing them already! 

6. Listen and connect

Anxiety can build up especially for first-time mothers. Knowing that you are there by her side - with your full attention, is a big relief. Listen and connect to your wife often to understand how she feels. You may not comprehend her situation entirely, but your listening ears and assurance could be a source of strength and inspiration to keep her going until the big day. Exert effort to make her feel loved, beautiful and special. For someone who loves his partner dearly, this must be the easiest and the surest way to make a pregnant wife happy.

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